This semester I'm teaching one of my favourite classes: Critical Analysis on Indonesian Mass Media. We were talking about Frankfurt School's Erich Fromm and his idea on 'to have or to be'. We talked about how in a capitalistic society, we have a tendency, that we are built, to possess. That in purchasing things, consuming things, we have no other notion than to possess everything else in life.
It extends into how we treat our loved ones. That they, too, are our possession. That if they are not within our reach, they are not there.
I see my son and how he's growing into his own person. I imagine the day when he decides to experience his own journey and make decisions I might not have expected him to. And I refer to Fromm's idea that he is not mine.
Nothing is essentially ours.
What we have is the experience. The journey, so to speak. It's a depressing thought, to think that everything is temporary - but it inevitably is.
And I think only by letting go can we truly be.